Monday, April 16, 2007
Importance of Friendship to our Lives
Friends make our Life easy and provide a much needed relief from the daily hectic grind of work. Friends provide us constant joy and happiness But True friendships are difficult to find. It takes years to master the ability to create non sexual closeness. We have to learn how to choose friends skillfully. Have a balance of give and take. And building mutual trust. Finally we all must disconnect peacefully when the friendship cannot be saved.
Trying to be friends is not easy. All involved must take part. When only one side works at the friendship it will definitely die. The type of friend you are changes. It depends on your age, health, marital status, backround, commitments and priorities.
MAKING NEW FRIENDS
New friends appear to keep you young. If you have not had three to four new friends in the last year ask yourself if you have been....
Self-involved: Boring, overbearing or uninterested in others.
Out of Balance: Are you a loner, a workaholic or are others not willing to be honest and learn about you?
Inactive: Cultivating and maintaining friendships take a lot of work not just on your side.
Not Enough Time: How will you enjoy life to the fullest without finding the time?
Flustered: How can I manage my time?
Ways to Improve the Quality and Quantity of Friendships
Put your friends on your Calendar: Set aside time to spend with your friends. You can spend time with them physically or by telephone and chatting on the Internet. Also writing and sending by mail, fax or E-mailing them keeps the friendship alive. Make the time with them important. Do not always cancel at the last minute. Also if you must cancel be honest and let them know why.
Try taking the Initiative: Having acquaintances as friends can be easy. You can have a dinner at your home or go out for one. If you have an extra ticket offer it to your acquaintance. Get both families together. Go to the movies, the mall or just for a ride.
Get use to Listening: After asking your friend a question. Do not get use to using the answer to talk about yourself.
Assess before you Invest: Having a new friend is an investment of time, energy and spirit.
Ask these questions to yourself:
Are you happy to see this person?
At times do you see this person out of obligation or social climbing?
Do you respect this individual?
Do you care about their well-being?
Are you interested in the individuals mind, experiences or problems?
Trying to be friends is not easy. All involved must take part. When only one side works at the friendship it will definitely die. The type of friend you are changes. It depends on your age, health, marital status, backround, commitments and priorities.
MAKING NEW FRIENDS
New friends appear to keep you young. If you have not had three to four new friends in the last year ask yourself if you have been....
Self-involved: Boring, overbearing or uninterested in others.
Out of Balance: Are you a loner, a workaholic or are others not willing to be honest and learn about you?
Inactive: Cultivating and maintaining friendships take a lot of work not just on your side.
Not Enough Time: How will you enjoy life to the fullest without finding the time?
Flustered: How can I manage my time?
Ways to Improve the Quality and Quantity of Friendships
Put your friends on your Calendar: Set aside time to spend with your friends. You can spend time with them physically or by telephone and chatting on the Internet. Also writing and sending by mail, fax or E-mailing them keeps the friendship alive. Make the time with them important. Do not always cancel at the last minute. Also if you must cancel be honest and let them know why.
Try taking the Initiative: Having acquaintances as friends can be easy. You can have a dinner at your home or go out for one. If you have an extra ticket offer it to your acquaintance. Get both families together. Go to the movies, the mall or just for a ride.
Get use to Listening: After asking your friend a question. Do not get use to using the answer to talk about yourself.
Assess before you Invest: Having a new friend is an investment of time, energy and spirit.
Ask these questions to yourself:
Are you happy to see this person?
At times do you see this person out of obligation or social climbing?
Do you respect this individual?
Do you care about their well-being?
Are you interested in the individuals mind, experiences or problems?
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